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[Poll #545686]

I voted for the third option BTW. If there's an interesting discussion I always forget to go back to it unless I leave a comment and then it jogs my memory when I see the e-mail in my inbox.

I do that a lot with Buffy posts on my flist, don't know if people have noticed lol. I leave an insignificant brief comment and then get the e-mail comment alert which reminds me to go back later when there's lots of discussion happening.

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[mrbig1316.livejournal.com]

I tend to feel hurt when something like this happens:

Repeatedly comment in one journal.

Repeatedly note that said journal gets loads of commets.

Repeated note that user responds to almost everyone.

Repeated note they are responding to everyone, just not me.

At which point I ask myself "Self? Why the hell does this person keep me friended?"

And what's sad is that its not just one person that this happens with. It happens with a handful of them. Its just wrong man. If you don't wanna say something back to me ANYTIME I comment, just defriend me already. That's a hint I can totally get. ;)

And now I realize you'll feel bad if you don't respond to this but please don't misunderstand me, I was simply explaining why I voted the way I did.

You're not on that list! So fret not!

*g*

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Lol, responds! :p

What I get hurt over (or annoyed over might be the truer term *g*) is when there's always that person on your flist that never responds to any of your entries ever. And said person will have posts complaining that people don't leave her enough comments. When they clearly don't bother reading my LJ at all, but they feel everyone on their flist owes them more comments. Eh.

I read everyone on my flist but probably don't comment enough.

[grapefruitzzz.livejournal.com]

I sometimes keep complicated or serious threads on my email for *days* while I get up the energy to make a suitable response, whereas fluff is easier to respond to. Sometimes I feel obliged to reply to replies, so it becomes a farce of "Thanks!", "No, thank-you!" "Gosh, thanks!". I wonder if it's a cultural thing?

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

He, I'm like that. The number of times I've replied to comments with just a smilie and nothing else, just so there's a response there.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Hee with two ees

[mrbig1316.livejournal.com]

OMG So like that.

[crossbow1.livejournal.com]

I'mthe opposite - don't feel obligated, and sometimes I have to remind myslef that it's polite to respond to offers or compliments. I'm kind of a social retart that way.

[luminosity]

I sort of waver. I'm pretty good about answering comments, and I always want an acknowledgement of what I've said in someone else's LJ (dream on! LOL). Sometimes I don't follow through, though, on my own LJ. Because I'm a dweeb.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

I like to think I'm good at answering comments, but sometimes there's just nothing to say back...

[baggylettuce.livejournal.com]

I absolutely read everything on my flist but I have less and less internet time so I hardly ever comment on stuff, then feel bad about it.

But I respond to every comment on my posts because I always appreciate the comments and thoughts, and it can lead to interesting conversations. (Plus it's fun to see my email inbox so full instead of its usual empty self!)

I don't really mind when people don't respond to comments I leave unless they usually respond to everyone but me. Then I must kill them. :)

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

I like the beginning of the day when I've got a full inbox *g*

[sum1-different.livejournal.com]

Oh, complicated topic... too lazy to profile my practices. ;)

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

I don't care if people don't respond to the odd comment. But if people never post back ever I would start getting annoyed :p

[spikeylover.livejournal.com]

It doesn't bother me one way or another. I try to reply to people as much as possible.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Same here. I don't really mind, I understand people are busy. I only choose the third option because I find it such a useful reminder *g*

[swsa.livejournal.com]

The only time it bugs me to not get a reply to a comment is if I've written something fairly significant. Otherwise? I don't care. Especially because I know on my LJ, I sometimes struggle to find responses to all the one line replies or the replies that are all kind of saying the same thing. I always have this urge to just write, "See response to _____, insert your name."

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

You have to reply to me though! You're one of the LJ's I leave comments in if I want to go back to the post later ;)

The only time it bugs me to not get a reply to a comment is if I've written something fairly significant. Otherwise? I don't care.

And yeah same here. It is a struggle to come up with a response and I often resort to using a smilie just to have replied with something.

[forked.livejournal.com]

Hm- I put 'Who cares', but that's not exactly accurate. The truth is, I comment fairly randomly and I surf around a lot, so I'm not even sure of whether the comment is going to someone on my flist or not, and my email notifications go into a void, so I really don't keep up with things that way.

In short- if I make a comment that invites/is part of a discussion, of course I'd like a reply. In theory. In realty, I generally try to check back a time or two and then completely forget about it- so it's moot anyway.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

In short- if I make a comment that invites/is part of a discussion, of course I'd like a reply.</i *nods*

[sparky77.livejournal.com]

As a general rule, I try to respond to all comments in my LJ, but life often gets in the way, and I just assume that's the same thing with other people. I think everyone gets something a bit different out of livejournal and whether or not they respond to comments has a lot to do with how they feel about LJ. Personally, I love all the interesting discussions, so I like anything that encourages a lot of back and forth, but I know that's not true for everyone.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

True.

[sum1-different.livejournal.com]

Oh, you asked about LOST on Channel 4. Seems it's being reshown. Channel 4 is showing the two-part pilot on Wednesday August 10. Part 1 is at 8.30-9.30 pm and part 2 is 10-10.55 pm. Unfortunately, the half hour in between the two parts is taken up by Big Brother. I'm guessing the rest of the LOST eps will follow in the weeks after.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Are you planning on watching?

My flist was mad about it for a while, so I want to at least check out the pilot.

[porntestpilot.livejournal.com]

Can I have my own response? I always respond to people's comments in my LJ because one of my friends told me it hurts her feelings if people "ignore" her so I always, always answer everything. Especially comments about a fic.

However, if someone doesn't answer me, I tend not to care too much. I mean, I don't think it's because they hate me, maybe they didn't answer anyone or they had nothing to say to my comment. *shrugs*

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Yeah a while back someone said she got offended when people don't make the effort to reply to her comments. And that was a time where I would occasionally not respond if I had nothing to say.

But after that if someone left a comment in my LJ, I always tried to at least acknowledge that I read it. But personally it doesn't bother me if someone doesn't reply. Just if it's a discussion I would prefer e-mail notification as LJ is a place where I tend to get lost and not return to posts otherwise.

[jfc013.livejournal.com]

You only had radio buttons instead of ticky boxes, or I would have voted for BOTH of the first two options. I don't have the capacity for LJ comments in my e-mail, either.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Well I guess taking offense/feeling hurt is kind of the same so techniquely you voted both ;)

[saint-kat.livejournal.com]

I voted for the third option also, though most of the comments to my journal come from my Chelsea-centric, soccer/football entries. From time to time, I make comments on the journals of my f-list (or communities) and feel a bit giddy if someone replies back.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Hee. Am I causing giddiness right now?

[sweet-ali.livejournal.com]

I think it depends. I know myself, sometimes when i post something very personal and get all these wonderful responses, i don't have the energy to give back the thank you 30 times, even though i appreciated every single comment. And in that respect, i think most people understand it.

If it's just a fun post, i do try my damnedest to respond everyone's comments, but every once in a while, I just can't, even if it's a post i really really wanted to and time just has gotten away from me. So, i can understand people being in the same situation.

The only time it does bother me is if it seems as if i'm being singled out. If a poster is going out of their way to not answer my comments, that's when i care.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

If I have a personal post and have like 40 replies hugging me, I totally appreciate that and feel I should acknowledge them. But responding to 40 odd comments individually can be a bit exhausting, and it's not like I can think of anything original to say back.

[bogwitch.livejournal.com]

I voted for #1, but I think 'offended'is a little strong. I think it's polite to take the time to reply to people who've made the effort to comment.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

:)

[thelostkelpie.livejournal.com]

It doesn't really bother me. Although I suppose if there was someone who had NEVER responded to me, but did everyone else, I would naturally feel slighted.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Yep.

[bleach226.livejournal.com]

I marked third from the bottom, because I do understand that sometimes people are busy and they don't have time to reply to every comment or just don't reply to every comment for whatever reason. However, I do prefer people responding to comments, it's always nice. :)

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

On message boards it's easier to keep up with threads, but LJ is harder when you've got a huge flist to scroll through, and you want to remember to return to a particular discussion. That's when I really value the comment notification.

[nel-ani.livejournal.com]

I have my settings so that I won't get emails, I use recent comments instead.

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

Ah, sounds useful!

[txvoodoo.livejournal.com]

I don't dare get offended if people don't respond, as I am terminally distracted (Hello, Adult ADD!), forgetful beyond belief (thank you, multiple medications), and a ditz in general.

Also, when I post my media stuff, I may get 25-50 responses, and not only is there no way i can respond to them all, I feel stupid typing "You're welcome!" 50 times :D I know it's the POLITE thing to do, but when you look at all those "You're welcome!"s on one page, it looks slightly absurd and surreal.

Maybe I should just put a pre-emptive "You're welcome, in advance!" at the end of each of those kinds of posts?

[frelling-tralk.livejournal.com]

That doesn't sound like a bad idea!

Not only that, but when people say something nice, it's not that I don't appreciate it at all, but it does get kind of boring typing out thanks 20/30 odd times.