I've had two people go at it in my comments before, and it made me super uncomfortable, because I felt like I should step in and stop it, but I didn't know how, especially since neither one was talking to me. It was a Chloe/Lois thing, where neither person was going to change her mind, and it turned kind of nasty rather quickly.
My feeling is, say anything you want to me in my journal, even that you think what I posted was idiotic or whatever, because I welcome a good discussion, and I've even had people change my mind that way. Plus, I can control when to agree to disagree and let the matter drop. But when it's friend-to-friend in the comments, I think a little more diplomacy is advisable. I don't want to be put in the middle of an argument in my own journal, if that makes sense.
My rule of thumb always is, pretend this discussion is going on in my living room instead of my journal. Would you say in person what you're about to post? If not, maybe you need to rethink it.
Good question, especially in the Smallville fandom! :)
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rosecarmine
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Date: 2008-05-20 12:56 am (UTC)My feeling is, say anything you want to me in my journal, even that you think what I posted was idiotic or whatever, because I welcome a good discussion, and I've even had people change my mind that way. Plus, I can control when to agree to disagree and let the matter drop. But when it's friend-to-friend in the comments, I think a little more diplomacy is advisable. I don't want to be put in the middle of an argument in my own journal, if that makes sense.
My rule of thumb always is, pretend this discussion is going on in my living room instead of my journal. Would you say in person what you're about to post? If not, maybe you need to rethink it.
Good question, especially in the Smallville fandom! :)