Yep, honestly the hate for Xander and Willow has gotten so OT in recent years that it's only made me more sympathetic to them. They're flawed sure, but still essentially well-meaning characters, and it doesn't make sense to me to see them torn apart, while fandom makes every excuse for characters like Spike, Faith, and Cordelia (It's probably a bit unfair to include Cordy in that grouping, but well she was introduced to us as a very elitist bully, and yet today's fandom loves to talk about how she's twice the hero that Xander and Willow ever were)