Barring Faith, all of which happened *after* he did it. So what was he expecting the outcome of stealing someone's kid going to be going in? Had he expected a sympathetic or even neutral ear, he'd have told Gunn or Fred.

The weird part is, he doesn't even seem to hold Angel accountable for what he did, which is something I wouldn't have minded because of Angel's sanctimonious saving people or redemption crap.

What "act"? You mean, how he actually dove into W&H offices when he knew that the Beast was at large and murdering everyone there to rescue Lilah? Or how he hoped that she'd stop being evil and ordering murders and apocalypses and have some better future than eternity of hell?

Yes, actually, considering how little mentions her before, during or after.