Oh yes I LOVED that scene in After Life and her protectiveness there. The irony of course is that she's also blind to the reality but c'mon, she's freakin' 15 and her sister just came back from the grave. (Dawn's expression at the end of Bargaining is the exact opposite of LtF, when Joyce said "it's all right, baby" and Dawn's face implied she knew better than that. In Bargaining it's Dawn who is briefly in Joyce's role.)
I can see them pulling apart and arguing but also as you say come together - there's a prickliness to their relationship that I recognize from my own childhood with my sibs. Life is difficult, you're in a metaphorical "war zone" (or literally as with Buffy & Dawn) and you fight because that's what you learned from you're parents but the trials also make the bonds incredibly strong. You're love for one another doesn't look like the Hallmark card or laundry detergent commercial version of the perfect family.
I really think that a key part of Buffy's depression has to do with unfinished grief over her mother's death; she had to put that on hold to protect Dawn and grief is something that takes years to work through, if ever; the most some people can hope for is that it lessens over time. There are nods to this re: Buffy in NA, BoTW (the First as Joyce) and Joyce's photo next to the couch in Villains, DT, Help, etc; and also in Buffy and Dawn's fight in the Bronze in Him (I really love that scene, Sarah and Michelle have the sister dynamic nailed).
We never do get a scene where Buffy and Dawn get to talk about what happened in The Gift, but the show rarely has anything like that anyway. (Instead we get buffy self-flagellating that she's not doing enough to take care of Dawn. And WHO is taking care of Buffy?)This is where fanfic theoretically SHOULD come in to fill the gaps- but unless I hang out in the wrong places in fandom, I haven't seen much if anything on that, and I'm surprised. (Or nothing all that good in terms of quality.)
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I can see them pulling apart and arguing but also as you say come together - there's a prickliness to their relationship that I recognize from my own childhood with my sibs. Life is difficult, you're in a metaphorical "war zone" (or literally as with Buffy & Dawn) and you fight because that's what you learned from you're parents but the trials also make the bonds incredibly strong. You're love for one another doesn't look like the Hallmark card or laundry detergent commercial version of the perfect family.
I really think that a key part of Buffy's depression has to do with unfinished grief over her mother's death; she had to put that on hold to protect Dawn and grief is something that takes years to work through, if ever; the most some people can hope for is that it lessens over time. There are nods to this re: Buffy in NA, BoTW (the First as Joyce) and Joyce's photo next to the couch in Villains, DT, Help, etc; and also in Buffy and Dawn's fight in the Bronze in Him (I really love that scene, Sarah and Michelle have the sister dynamic nailed).
We never do get a scene where Buffy and Dawn get to talk about what happened in The Gift, but the show rarely has anything like that anyway. (Instead we get buffy self-flagellating that she's not doing enough to take care of Dawn. And WHO is taking care of Buffy?)This is where fanfic theoretically SHOULD come in to fill the gaps- but unless I hang out in the wrong places in fandom, I haven't seen much if anything on that, and I'm surprised. (Or nothing all that good in terms of quality.)