Yeah, if a body guard came up to me that would be pretty intimidating. And she was crying later. I don't think her question was going to injure anyone, seriously, whatever she was going to ask.

I think they need to man up. It's a question, deal with it gracefully, and move on. She's not the first to see subtext and won't be the last. There is subtext, duh. I heard similar questions for Gaius and Felix all the time. (I haven't gone to cons but I watch all the vids on YouTube. :-)) James Callis didn't like it in the beginning. I think he didn't want to be typecast after his earlier role in the first Bridget Diary film. But eventually, the actors just answered the question and moved on.

I think screening is a good idea, but once screened let the question happen.