I don't really understand con etiquette, so there's a lot of context I'm sure I'm missing. But I just feel like the actors and a handful of individual writers end up getting taken to task for the whole universe of fandom feelings about XYZ. And that's such a massive thing that can be tough for me to understand even with written access to all the context, that I kind of can't blame the individuals involved for setting and enforcing whatever boundaries.

But at the same time, when NO HOMO! is the boundary, whether it's based in someone's individual issue or because there's a critical mass of attendees who make it an overwhelming thing to try to talk about, in context of the way SPN-the-narrative has some weird masculinity issues, is...hinky. I'll commit to hinky.