That's exactly what annoyed me with SPN. People loved quotes like "Cas, get out of my ass". "I was never in your ass", but I thought it was all so stupid and juvenile. If anything the writers were missing the point IMO when fans ship characters because they care about the emotional connection, it's hugs between Sam and Dean or lingering looks between Dean and Castiel that I would really see as fanservice. I mean not fanservice exactly because they still make sense in the canon, but something that the fans will really eat up and enjoy. It's almost more making a joke of it to just wisecrack about it in rather random comments. But then a lot of fans did seem to really like those Destial quotes in seasons 5 and onwards, so what do I know :shrugs:

And exactly, there was no need for that question to be awkward because there are many tactful answers to give in response, even just quickly laughing it off with "well I haven't been intentionally playing it that way, but there's more a question for the writers." It's not like she got up there and asked something wildly inappropriate like does Jensen play Dean as a top or a bottom!