Right, like no one is saying that you have to hold someones hand and patiently explain things to them if it is causing you understandable frustration, but that's no excuse to swear at them, or call them names. Yet I see that happening time and tme again, and tone argument gets pulled out if someone dares take offense at being called a stupid loser or whatever else

If someone is trolling over and over then fine, or someone who refuses to take onboard what you are saying period then I understand losing your patience, but new posters who make mistakes in genuine ignorance seem to get treated in the same way, as if they are deliberately being hurtful and offensive. And at the comm I'm talking about, a new poster used the word skank in a different community, was told that it was an offensive word to use, she apologised, said she didn't realise, and wouldn't use it again. And in response she was berated by so many members for not apologising in the correct manner that she ended up leaving the comm. And I do think that half of the ~outrage is just an excuse to gang up on one person and get your special membership kudos